THE STRONG TIDES

This post comes after months...its the month of november..when a lot has changed. But change is a continuous process. Thats the most important lesson i seem to have learnt in the past few months.
A friend's birthday celebration at the beach motivated me to rethink over lots of my beliefs. We were at the beach at 7 in the evening...celebrations went on for long...but the view of the beach at 10 in the night under the moonlit sky with the strong tides coming on shore was a different enlightening experience altogether, and so was the company. Cant deny it was certain people who forced me to ponder over lots of things...
the waves bring in lots with them and leave behind an equal amount. No talks of materials like sand and remnants, but more in terms of the little particles that it contains and the numerous experiences that the waterbody and human beings have experienced together. ages back sailors sailed in tniy hand made boats, went on to build ships, face pirates, faced ship wrecks, faced death head on...and also experienced the beautiful emotions of love, fear, excitement, thrill and lots more all together. No complains....but lived through all in the sense of adventures. Time moved on...so did technology improve and help man re-build things and develop the older techniques of survival. but how did our ancestors survive the strong emotions that came alongside their journey...a journey taken up on purpose and not on compulsion?? This is what we are yet to learn....
As youngsters today, its become more of a habit to escape. escape from responsibilities, situations, thoughts,traditions and worse of all....emotions. thinking over the reasons for it.....i havent found the answers yet...but i am sure that there has to be a reason for it all...a reason about why the world is changing so drastically where the human connection seems to be failing.
after months of thinking over it and observing all the people i know and speaking to many, what i have realized is its all about the fear of failing. fear of failing your loved ones and not being able to live upto the expectations.
again, i might be wrong....because, another possibility is selfishness. a world of your own where you dont have place to think of others. and of course, in such a situation you can have no feelings for any one else but yourself...

AM I RIGHT?

I can make the right choices in life since I am aware and educated; not everyone can be trusted to make the right choice.
Life is all about making choices. The right choices in life can be attributed to a variety of reasons, though education forms an integral part of it. Education gives you the strength and courage to face the world and differentiate between right and wrong. But its not just education that teaches you. We have our instincts to rely on..........
As individuals not all are alike. But there are certain norms that are to be followed by everyone who lives and wants to continue living in this society.
But education is not the answer to all our queries. For instance no one can answer as to why does female infanticide still exist in spite of all the awareness programs. It could be easy to blame it on lack of education, but the truth is that it does exist among the educated and elite lot who want a son to continue their family name. Such are the restrictions in our Indian society.
Situations could arise, where in, it becomes necessary to go against the written norms of the society to follow your heart and do what you think is right. Here, it is the individual’s perspective that helps him/ her and not just the education. So we could say that though education helps in moulding an individual’s personality and their thoughts and ideas, but it is not just education, but also their surroundings, their own thoughts and ideas. And this is where awareness about social issues and other concerns could play an important role.
When a child is born, the first thought that crosses a parent’s mind is about their child’s future and career and life.......and the first step to it is education. In school we learn about lots of things, manners, habits, morals and lots more. A child inculcates what he sees around him. And that is what shapes his personality. A criminal is not born as a criminal, but it’s his circumstances and situations that make him what he is. Giving him a second chance by educating him and giving him a role to play in society could be a possible way to reduce crime rates in our country. So education is really important.

But could we say that education is what has made us aware of realities in life? Not really. An uneducated farmer would know more about the pros and cons of what has to be used on his field and what not to use than an urbanized well educated individual.
In India, education and awareness are not interlinked. An individual who is well educated may not even be aware of what is right or what is wrong. We could call a person ‘aware’, only when he knows the general happenings of the world and is able to make the right choices without hurting other individuals or creating havoc in the society. Hence, it is important for us to distinguish between people who are well educated and those who are well aware of the world and his surroundings.
Making the right choice determines a person’s future and that is when you can say I have fought fate. When a person is aware of the decision he has to take under certain circumstances and makes a choice he is setting himself into a particular path which determines where his life is going to go henceforth. So making the right choice in life is not determined by how educated you are but by your awareness....

Destiny's child....

As humans we have a well developed brain...supposed to be supreme creatures, who can create things and destroy them. We make our own lives. But can we fight fate? Do we, as humans, even believe in fate? There are many who think that they create their own lives, but i would say that everything happens for a reason. And more often than not, i like to believe that whatever happens,happens for good. May be i should blame optimism for this thought, but i think that it is this thought that can help us let go of our past, learn from our mistakes and move on in life, and step into our future.
And every situation takes us a step forward towards our ultimate goal in life. I honestly believe that every individual has a purpose to serve, a reason for them to be born, to make a difference in some way. And no matter what, we reach it. Some are lucky to find their fate early, to realize what they are meant for, and some find it at a later stage in life, but find they do,because no matter what,however modern we are, our fate is sealed. And we will definitely reach it.

Reality Bites - 2

Certain realizations hit hard...but its for good. I came across a saying today, which talks about how u come into this world alone and die alone....its not something that i would have thought of at the age of 20,but its hard to ignore. A fact that not many think of...but it still exists. We expect to share each and every moment of our lives with the people around us,to be surrounded by people we love all the time.
I saw an old couple of about 80 years of age walking the other day.....holding hands,with small steps one after the other.... I was wondering as to who was supporting whom...but the very sight brought tears to my eyes...whether they were tears to see the two old people supporting eachother in every way they could or to see that even at this age they had to fend for themselves with no one to look after them,i am not sure. It is definitely convincing to know that they have eachother, but i still fail to understand what could have made their family,friends to leave them by themselves. The bond of love that was visible between them seemed to be so strong and solid. A sight hardly seen these days when love is just a hyped expression but not an emotion that is understood and fulfilled.
Loneliness....a phase of life that i hope no individual has to face.....

The word CHANGE -

Ever since we step into this world, the only constancy in our lives is change. The word in itself has a lot of significance. Not just to me...but to every individual who would have felt the changes in and around them. Those who realize them,can learn and move on in life,accept the good changes and further change the bad ones...but CHANGE is a must........
Everything changes...not just who you are and what kind of a situation u r in...but your relationships,your thinking, your judgement,the rights,the wrongs..and of course our very own dynamic world. And the best way to survive is to change yourself with the changes around you.Not an easy task if you are a stubborn person like me...takes a lot of energy and work...but its not impossible. But how far would you change yourself to fit into the world...to make yourself acceptable to society? In the past 3 years....Ihave seen my life change....cant make a judgement of good and bad because its been both but its definitely changed me....but is it the same for all?
We are all brought up with certain 'values' which are nurtured in us from our childhood and which we tend to cherish as we grow up. But somtimes these values bind you....the moral sense kicks in when you have to fight for your rights, when you are in a do or die situation,or when you have to fight for what you deserve. But how far can one go when they stick to the age-old values of 'honesty,faith,trust,belief,friendship and love'? Not many understand the meaning of these words....and to them its only 'words'...but to many...these values make them who they are.....but can they survive in this world where you have to fight for what you want? Where treachery,treason,manipulation plays an important role to succeed? Unfortunately, these values are dying down today and so is their importance.....Herbert's Theory of 'Survival of the Fittest' is reality. Those who can change themselves and compromise on their values survive and tend to succeed...unlike many who are ready to lead decent lives based on their values,with dignity,peace and honour,without any pretense and fake material. Cheers to those who have survived and made it big in life!

Reality Bites- 1

Thoughts......and a new found direction...to follow where my heart leads...

I walk on the road and look at the little kids playing in rags but with million dollar smiles on their faces. The joy so clearly evident and an angelic look inspite of all the mischief that forms a part of their lives, the little moments they can get before they are forced into the ever so materialistic world to move ahead,and im not talking of the kind of childhood we have had. A single glance at the lifestyles of the kids in the slums speaks volumes. But they still manage to give an honest smile...n spending a little time with them...you'l know that their smile is not fake but an honest smile that reaches their eyes and touches your heart....

....the question arises...What do we lack? The answer seems to be quite simple...the ability to look at the beauty of things around us and to live life to the fullest, enjoying every minute and every moment that the almighty has bestowed upon us. But which we seem to ruin..on our chase to get our hands full......something that makes us more of a human being but not far from being a part of the neanderthal age.........

This is not a topic i can stop thinking about coz lots of questions still remain unanswered to me...but ill be filling up this space as and when i find my answers. With every minute that goes by i realize and learn something new...something that i hope ends the search i have started..................